Hanging out with a friend the other night the topic of, "Why do some girls act the way the do?" came up. That question was never really answered. It is a complete mystery why girls think that it is attractive to run around in barely there clothes, drunk to the point you can barely walk, and hang over every guy around. I've asked a few guys this, and yes, they do find these girls attractive. They are girls who they would sleep with, have one night stands with, and call for late night sex. These are not the girls they would invite home to meet the family, marry, develop lasting relationships with. This was the consensus I got from most guys (not all).
This could just be the way I was raised, or the fact that I'm not one of these types of "girls," but I just don't get it. I understand that it is probably much easier to go after a girl who is plastered in a dress that doesn't cover her butt or boobs, than it is to go after the nice girl in the corner who you can talk to for hours and laugh endlessly with, but who won't give it up that easy. However, as a woman, I would much rather be with a guy who could look past all the "glamour" there apparently is about these types of girls and realize that right in front of him is a good woman. Someone he isn't ashamed to be seen with outside of a party, someone who he can hold a conversation, someone who he can bring home to meet his mom and she won't be concerned that her son needs to be tested for an STD.
If I ever had a son, I would teach him these things, when he's old enough. I would teach him that there is a very beg difference between a girl you can have a good time with, and a girl who is just a good time. I would want him to find a girl who he could bring home me to meet me, and I would be comfortable letting him go.
I realize that at this point in my life, girls like me are not in high demand. We won't sleep with you on the first date (maybe not even after the first 100 dates), we won't be your "booty call" in the middle of the night, and we won't be quiet about our opinions, because unlike the girls some of you guys are going for (not all of you), we have a brain and we know how to use it. I consider myself lucky to be a lady. I consider myself blessed to not be a notch in the bed post for x number of guys. I consider myself proud to be able to say I am not, nor will I ever be, one of these girls in the skimpy outfits and 9 inch heels, smelling like booze and bad perfume, stumbling out of some guys apartment as the sun is rising....a guy who won't care about me 2 weeks from now. Because what I'll have in the long run, things like a family, a loving husband, and a good reputation, are so much more important than being the object of desire for some drunk guy at a party.
And for the girls who fit the description I gave.... please wisen up. Use the brain that god gave you, put on some clothes, get a degree, and meet a guy who wants you for more than sex. Because you deserve a guy who treats you well. Every woman does.
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